While the overwhelming majority of couples enter into marriage wanting it to last a lifetime, there are times when relationships can weaken and two individuals can begin to drift apart. The reasons for a failing marriage can be numerous, but fortunately there are also a large number of self-help books that can offer insight into the relationship problems you may be facing and help with saving your marriage. While these recommended book titles are not designed to be a substitute for seeking qualified mental health support and marriage counseling, they can help you to gain more knowledge about your current situation and provide tools and suggestions to help improve your relationship.
Books About Saving Your Marriage
Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson
Sue Johnson is a therapist working with Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) – a therapeutic technique that views the love relationship as an attachment bond. Backed by numerous scientific studies, EFT is a popular choice with marriage therapists around the world. In Hold Me Tight, Johnson advocates that the way to save and improve a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connections. With this in mind, she focuses on guiding readers through seven different healing conversations. Through case studies, advice, and practical exercises, couples can better learn to nurture and support their relationship with one another.
After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful, by Janis Abrahms Spring and Michael Spring
After the Affair offers proven strategies for surviving the crisis of infidelity and rebuilding the relationship. The book guides both the hurt and the unfaithful through the three stages of healing: normalizing feelings, determining if recommitment is possible, and if so, revitalizing the relationship. By providing practical advice, the couple can learn how to change their behaviors, cultivate forgiveness and trust, and build a healthier intimate relationship.
As Psychotherapist Olivia Mellan puts it, “money is never just money.” Her experience with couples who argue over finances provides the foundation for this book, where couples work to identify their money “style,” how to resolve money style differences between spouses, and how to address communication problems that arise when talking about money and financial security.
The Love Dare, by Stephen Kendrick
Recommended for couples with a committed spiritual or religious practice, Kendrick’s book offers a 40-day relationship challenge with daily encouragement focusing on living a faith-based live both within their marriage and as individuals.
Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage, by Mark Gungor
Gungor’s book focuses on how humor, laughter, and fun can be the best medicine for making a successful marriage. Included with the book is a DVD that features exercises and activity ideas designed to ease stress and restore a sense of happiness with each other and with yourself.
Why Mars and Venus Collide: Improving Relationships by Understanding How Men and Women Cope Differently With Stress, by John Gray
Written by relationship guru John Gray, and based on the latest scientific research on how couples deal with stress, Gray explains how the differences and similarities on how the two sexes handle stress as individuals and as a couple. Through case studies and scenarios, couples are taken through a variety of exercises where they can determine how they deal with stress and how to change their communication and behavioral patterns to alleviate marital discord.
Read About Saving Your Marriage
When you begin to feel that you are in a tough place in your marriage, don’t give up. Reading relevant and recommended books for saving your marriage can be a great place to start and help you to identify problems and solution. Remember that help is available for you, either through friends and family, religious or community support systems, or trained mental health counselors. With commitment and patience, it is possible to strengthen your marriage and see a return to happier days.
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